-
Halloween
I don’t think I’ve ever written about Halloween before since it’s mostly a non-event here. Well it used to be a non-event but now it’s become somewhat more popular around here.
Growing up, I enjoyed Halloween as a child and I remember going trick or treating in our neighborhood every year. I even recall a house that was on a little cul-de-sac off our street that never gave out treats and was dark each year. It’s a rather indistinct memory in that I mostly recall it happening and kind of where it happened but almost no other detail.
My trick or treating days were over by the time we moved from Georgia to North Carolina when I was eleven. I really can’t recall exactly when that was but I’m sure if I went out it was only because my brothers did. I didn’t really do much for Halloween during my teens and college years. I did dress up for at least one party which I think was held in our dorm. Once I was working I often was often at work on the night.
Then we had our two boys and Halloween wasn’t a part of their lives. Except for the one year we were in Halifax, Nova Scotia when they did their one and only trick or treating experience. I found they really got into the whole event there, unlike where we’d live before we left the US. (I think it had changed to mostly parties around our area, even for kids). The Scientist took them out while I stayed home to hand out treats. Of course Lego Lover doesn’t recall that as he was only not-quite three at the time. Not sure if Games Fanatic recalls much of it either but he was old enough to remember something of it, I think.
These days, Halloween has become more popular here and they even sell the type of pumpkins we used to use for jack o’lanterns although it’s pretty expensive to buy. I think that was the part I liked the best of the day but I’d sooner use some other foodstuff which was cheaper. After all the original ones were made out of turnips and beets from what I have read. I’m not sure how well that might work though and it’s a bit more than I can be bothered with in the end. I did today see the first jack o’lanterns I’ve ever seen in Australia. I know they must have been done before since the pumpkins are sold here but just never saw one. The one I recall was at an Anglican church having some sort of Halloween Haven. I have no idea what that entailed but I can guess it might be like the events I recall from when I last lived in North Carolina where kids were taken to a community event to do trick or treating instead of going door to door.
Today wasn’t the ideal evening for going out because it’s been windy and rainy off and on. We didn’t get anybody knocking at our door but then I didn’t prepare for anyone to come aside from getting an emergency pack of little chocolates…one of which has mostly been consumed by family members now. The other is still unopened. I did get other chocolates for the boys to eat and they are mostly gone now aside from part of a Toblerone block.
-
Reaching into the memory bank…
Well, that’s what is seems like at times. Last night I was chatting to my mom on Skype and we somehow we got onto a discussion about something or other that brought up the of friend of another family’s daughter. At the time my mom mentioned her as the younger brother of that guy I used to ride up to college with. Hmm…I drew a complete blank at this although she did remember the guy’s name was Brad. Eventually we worked out who she was talking about but I really didn’t remember riding to college with this guy. The discussion seemed to try to unlock some door in my memory, though, as today, I do have a relatively vague recollection of this happening. I remember enough to know that this guy must have been three years older than me as I’m sure this only happened freshman year. I honestly have no memory of the actual rides back and forth, positive or negative. This wasn’t someone I knew particularly well but I must have known him enough not to be have a memory of riding with some strange person. It’s just interesting how I didn’t remember this at all, then some memory of it seemed to leak out into my consciousness. I have a better recall of bus rides back and forth from Greensboro to Charlotte….but I then don’t really recall how I got to the bus station in Greensboro so I can only assume it must have been close to campus as I don’t think I had to make arrangements to get there each time. Or maybe I did and that memory is still locked away.
-
Naps
I was just reading a meme on my Facebook feed about naps and it triggered a memory.
When I was about four and/or five, my mom worked as a real estate agent and we were looked after by a woman named Mrs. McGarrity, who looked after quite a number of kids in her home. I don’t recall how many there were but each day after lunch we were supposed to lie down on the floor for a nap. There seemed quite a few of them aside from me and my two brothers, so I’m guessing there might have ten or more kids there. Anyway, when it came time for a nap, I would never sleep and she used to get highly annoyed. Thinking a bit more about it, I think she spent that time watching her soapies and instead of sleeping, I was watching what she was watching. :) Anyway, I remember she eventually got fed up and put me into a bedroom with the door closed. I don’t know what she expected I would do but I didn’t nap there either. I remember I used to get up and walk around the bed and look out the window. I’m not sure if this happened just once or if if became a regular thing.
That’s mostly what I remember about going there, aside from a vague memory of all us kids playing out in the backyard. We only went there for a year or so. When I started school, my mom stopped working and stayed home with my brothers.
-
It’s the weekend-odd and ends from the past week or so
A couple weeks ago the Scientist and I both installed Windows 8 on our computers. Last weekend, I had a problem where my computer wouldn’t move out of sleep mode and something must have gone wrong because no amount of recovery would work. Eventually it was decided to do a clean installation and also to replace the hard drive as it was kind of old and started to get crowded. The installation went fine and I’m still trying to install some of my missing software. I ran into some troubles when I tried to load my outlook mail files and have yet to find the most recent files. I do, however, have files going back five years or more. Most of my email in recent years has gone through my gmail accounts so I should be able to retrieve most things but it doesn’t feel right for it to be missing.
I finally replaced my stolen camera last weekend too. After buying the required items from the computer shop, the Scientist and I ended up dropping in to Camera House in the mall. It’s not the one we usually visit as it’s a bit further away from the local store, but it seems to be one of the better stocked stores in the chain. It happens that the model I wanted, an Olympus Pen PL-5, Â had just come in a couple days before and hadn’t even made it out of the box yet. I looked at it and also the “mini” version plus the Canon G15, which is very much like the camera that was stolen. I even had a quick look at a another Canon but that one was really not what I was looking for. I eventually bought what I’d expected to buy and brought it home. When you’ve used cameras from the same company for a few years, it’s a bit weird to be faced with totally different operating systems and controls. I found it overwhelming at the start because it really is quite different than any of the others I’ve used. But I’m getting more used to it and learning the controls little by little. Hopefully I’ll be up to speed with it before the next birthdays and holidays.
Monday morning, I logged onto the computer early to buy tickets for the Neil Finn-Paul Kelly concert happening next March. I really enjoyed the one-off show they did last year so I imagine the next one will also be pretty special. It was kind of funny because I happened to comment a couple weeks ago that it looked like we wouldn’t be seeing and Finn-related shows this year. While that is true, this tour was announced just a few days later and now we have the anticipation of the next show. I’m hoping to take my new camera with me and try it out on the low lighting of the venue.
A couple days ago I was taking our family friend, an intellectually disabled man, to the library and gym as a carer. While at the library I decided to check out a couple of books. I haven’t used this card for a while so it was necessary to update details. It was a bit of a shock when the librarian read out my alternate contact as my friend who died earlier this year. This really surprised me because I do recall using her as a contact for a couple of libraries. But it was weird feeling to have her name pop up like that. Today would have been her fiftieth birthday so I’ve been particularly feeling her absence today. Her name also popped up on Facebook as she had an account that she hardly used. I keep thinking I should remove her name from my friends list but it doesn’t feel right to do that for some reason.
My shoulder is starting to feel better now. I’m still taking pain tablets daily but I was able to drop down to just one a day this week. It’s been hard having to avoid exercises using these muscles but I’ve mostly managed it so far. All going well I should be able to start moving back to my usual exercise next week. I’ll have to be cautious, though, because I seem to suffer more pain hours after exercise than I do while doing it. Meanwhile, my legs have been getting a pretty good workout on the cardio machines lately. To end on a really positive note, the woman who owns the gym has said she wants to do before and after photos of the Scientist and me in January as we’ve both made some good progress since we started. The Scientist has already lost 10kgs since the end of August. My weight hasn’t dropped a lot but my other measurements have gone down pretty steadily and it’s obvious by the way my clothes fit.
-
Interesting coincidences and a bit of a walk down memory lane
Back in the early 1970s, probably around 1973, I saw Gone With the Wind at the cinema. I remember the cinema well as it was the only one in our city and it was part of the Jerry Lewis cinema chain. I don’t know of any others in the chain but there must have been. I think that was the last year it was shown in the cinema and before I knew it, the movie was screening on network tv every once in a while. It is quite possible that most cinemas had stopped screening it years earlier. But I lived in Forest Park, Georgia, which was very close to the approximate location of the fictional Tara Plantation just south of Atlanta. It was probably more like a cult favorite in the area well past the time when it was shown in other parts of the country.
My family had a copy of the book on our bookshelves but I never though to read it. I was a bit young for it when I saw the film and it never really occurred to me to attempt to read that thick volume when I got older. Besides, in my mind, many of those older books were quite boring. This was ignoring the fact the book is one of the most read in the English-speaking world. It was a bit like my preconceived notion of Pride and Prejudice as one of those old stuffy books of old…only to discover in the past ten years that it’s an amazingly funny book.
I recently acquired an iPad 2 which I’ve found even better for reading ebooks than the iPod Touch I got a couple years ago. I was browsing through the books available there and discovered Gone with the Wind was one of their collection. They had a sample of the book available for download and and tried it out and really enjoyed it. Now I’ve gotten the full book so I can continue the saga without lugging a bit book around. What I’ve found incredibly interesting are the references to towns located near Forest Park. Towns like Jonesboro were part of my growing up years.
Forest Park won’t rate a mention in the book because it didn’t exist at that time. While reading the book, I wondered what the origins of my childhood home were. I must admit I didn’t find much information but apparently it was originally a stop on the railway line to and from Atlanta and called Forest Station. What particularly attracted my attention was the fact it had once had the nickname of Stumptown.
In December 1976 we moved from Forest Park in Georgia to Matthews, North Carolina, just outside Charlotte. The city has an annual festival called Stumptown Festival, which celebrates the original name of Matthews, NC. So last night I discovered that the two places I lived during my childhood both had been called Stumptown, either officially or unofficially, at one time. I think it’s a pretty cool coincidence.
And while doing my online searches on this topic, I came across a blog called Stumptown, which relates to Forest Park, and relates some details of the area over the years. I have known for many years that the demographic of our old neighorhood is totally different to the white, middle class one where I grew up. I think there was a drastic shift that occurred within fifteen to twenty years or so and now it’s mostly low-income “minority” groups in the area. Family and friends have told me it’s very run down in the area now. The blog I mention often blames the encroachment of the Atlanta airport and with it so near, I suppose that could be a significant factor.
I went looking at our old house on Google maps and it looked rather different to how I remembered it. Some of the trees block the view of the house and it’s been painted a different color. But when I shifted the view to the other houses around it, they didn’t look so different to me. Lots of memories flooded back of the people who once lived on the street with us. In some ways, it didn’t look so different to the way I remember it. There were still lots of beautiful trees in bloom in front of many of the homes. I’ve been told it’s quite run down in that area now but I wonder if maybe this little area might be in better shape than some if these images are anything to go by. I found out the house hasn’t been sold since 1998, which I also found interesting.
Still I don’t know if I’d want to go back and see it now as I’ve wished to do for so long. I think it might just make me sad to see the area in such bad shape. And it’s likely that I’d have pretty limited recognition of any landmarks at this point. One of the main reasons I had wanted to revisit was to see the old woods near our house. It was full of trails created by local kids and there were some large boulders that many of us have climbed over the years. I have some really fond memories of riding my bicycle there and meeting up with friends. And I also have a memory of being sent to buy something for my mom and getting lost in there once. I was last there when I was eleven and it seemed such a massive maze of trails but I wanted to see if it was really as big as I remember. A few years ago I discovered the woods were finally knocked down and now there are residential streets in its place. It wasn’t that surprising but still weird to think that was gone now.
I did see that the library there still stands and found photos showing it’s much as I remember it. Funnily enough, it’s not a place we had been that many times but I had some distinct memories of it for being a two story building which I thought was kind of neat. Seems it was only opened in 1969, so it must have been fairly shiny and new at the time we visited.
All sorts of memories have emerged from the closed vaults of my brain. I really must start writing this down as it’s getting harder and harder to recall things over time and I like the idea of creating a personal history for my records…maybe even have something to share with my kids should they ever show any interest.
-
Where was I meme
This is the meme.
Princess Diana’s death (August 31, 1997)
I remember the day well enough. I was three months into my second pregnancy and had just taken a leave of absence from study due to some hemorrhaging the week before. The Scientist, Games Fanatic and I were visiting at his parents’ home, for lunch, I think. I am pretty sure his mum was away at the time but I recall his dad sitting in the usual chair in the games room, watching the news when the newsflash came on. We all rushed to see the story when we first heard about it. That’s about all I remember about that day. I had no idea of the hysteria that was to follow.
The events of the following week have been superseded in my memory by more personal events. That was the week that my pregnancy ended and I recall being in the hospital, watching the funeral on tv and feeling how unimportant her death was in the grand scheme of things. The hype over the years about her death always makes me feel quite sour. In many ways my own loss is well in the past, but because the media regurgitate this story so regularly, I find myself pondering that time in my life quite often. At the moment my memories are especially strong because the dates and days of the week match that week eleven years ago. Surprisingly, the media have been relatively quiet (at least from my perspective) this year.
-
Interview
The Lego Lover was involved in a cognitive, perceptual and motor assessment a few weeks ago as part of a research project at the University of Western Australia. Today I met with the researcher for a follow-up parental interview. Our discussion was quite interesting and required that I answer questions about LL now and during his fifth year along with a few questions on his earlier development. Most of the questions I was able to answer easily but I did find myself second-guessing myself for a few of them. It dredged up some memories of the initial autism assessment that we went through about four years ago.